You don’t have to be perfect at everything. With the extreme complexity that we all face every day, it can be exhausting trying to be perfect at everything. This impossible goal cannot be reached, and it will only add to your stress level – certaily it won’t be prodctive in any way.
Accept that you aren’t perfect
In fact, go ahead and say it. “I am not perfect”. Feels like a small weight off your shoulders already, doesn’t it? Now it’s time to start living it. Grab a pen and notepad, and write down your main roles in life. For example, my list would look something like this:
- Christian
- Father
- Husband
- Brother
- Son
- Provider
- Full time employee
- Entrepreneur
- Accountant
- Investor
- Handyman
- More??
Every single one of these roles is important. however, I’m just one man – I can’t be perfect at all these things. Humans are imperfect, and I’m sure that’s in God’s design. So, what to do?
Split your list
Take a good look at your list. Choose 4 things that stand out above the rest. These four things should be the most important to you, and should become your main focus. You still won’t be perfect, but you can be very good at them with more focus.
The remaining items on your list still matter, or else they wouldn’t be there. But you need to accept that your focus doesn’t lie with these things, and you won’t be perfect at them. You probably won’t even be great. Depending on the role, you can follow the “Good enough is good enough” attitude, or even outsource the role to an expert.
What is my focus list?
Christian
Father
Husband
Provider
The first four items I wrote down happen to be the most important to my life. Every other role on my list needs to fall back, so I can spend most of my energy on my top 4 roles. Certainly being a full-time worker and entrepreneur are related to being a provider – but they are secondary. More important than how I provide for my family is the fact that I do provide for them. Following God’s word as best I can, and being the best husband and father that I can be are my core roles.
What does your focus list look like?